Where'd I go you may ask? Well, yes, I disappeared.
The other day on my way home I saw MINI with one headlight busted. It was a pretty humorous site actually.
I'm slowly becoming unattached to my turtle as I prepared to give it away.
So starting Sunday I was thinking about things that had happened to me in the past. More specifically, that whole deal with Katherine. On a huge level, I think I did nothing wrong. I never treated her wrong. So it confuses me on how it ended the way it did. If it was just breaking up, then perhaps it makes more sense. But we all know it was not just that.
As a guy, I've read a lot of material on guy related things. One of them being picking up a girl. According to some logic, it's easier to get with a girl that has a boyfriend than one that doesn't. All you have to do is be better than her boyfriend. You are not competing with the rest of the male population.
So two parts to that loaded paragraph. The obviously biased part of could he have got her if I wasn't in the picture? Probably. The second, less self confidence boosting part, is he better than me? I'll be the first to admit, probably on some level. If not, why would what happened have happened?
Obviously there is that typical idea of people are different, not better. Which is true, but let's just look at the simple context of the situation. For the sake of argument. And if anyone is worried, I think dating is about being good, or better if you will, for the other person at this point in time. Nothing to do with more qualitative attributes such as morals or other intangibles.
So on we go, the biggest wonder I have is if he could have dealt with Katherine at that period of time in college when I met her. I'll admit, I don't know the guy so I can't say for sure. But from what I understand, I think the answer is no.
Maybe it's some sort of self importance complex, a bit narcissistic, but I believe I had to happen first. We are always changed and altered by our encounters with others.
So I win. Perhaps. The season premier of How I Met Your Mother talks about this concept of winning a break up. I don't think there is a winner, but it's just a funny concept.
On the flip side, I too was changed. I will admit, I would be a shitty boyfriend if not for her constant nagging on my faults.
So in the end, this had nothing to do with what I initially set out to talk about. A long diatribe I guess. And there is no more room, this entry is getting too long. I'll revisit the title next time.
04 October 2007
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7 comments:
wow, this is the most open and honest post I've read from you. I am eager to read what's next..
Haha. You'll be disappointed. The next one will be about work.
What goes around comes around.
Your only fault was that you were too good to her.
no blogs about work. boo.
while the girl is also a large part at fault, i always find it a little perplexing that guys, and good, decent guys, at that, feel that it's perfectly ok to go after a girl with a bf because dating isn't married. is that not part of guy code? perhaps i'm missing something or because i'm sleep deprived and can't really logic properly.
you are slowly detaching from the turtle.
but the turtle has no clue what's in store. you're just going to pull the plug on her like she's a sucker.
I'm going to donate her to the pet store.
And yeah, there's that saying. Bros before hos. But alls fair in love and war right? Who knows? To many people in this world to expect them to live by some guideline.
grace, you're right on all accounts it's totally part of guy code. But it gets a little more iffy when you don't know the other guy, but then again, if they get serious enough, a.k.a. engagement, don't be an eff-ing homewrecker.
Basically he earned himself a nice ass whooping from yours truly if he so unfortunately crosses my path.
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