Man, I have this migraine in the back of my head right now. It's making me very unproductive at work at 9pm. Yes, at work at 9pm. Sometimes we have it good, other times we have it bad.
So I've been thinking about a couple of questions recently. And before anyone asks, they are not related to any specific incidients or anything pertaining to real people I know or do not know. That reminded me of the Shrek 3 trailer I saw a few weeks ago.
Anyhows. What is the difference between hanging out and being on a date? This is an open ended question so if you are reading this, please answer with your opinion. I enabled anonymous comments a while ago, so do not be afraid to answer. I mean, a guy and a girl and just hang out, and it does not have to be a date. But, it could be. So what differentiates the two?
Now for my second question. When is too soon to date again? And I mostly mean just going on a date, but it could be extended to all facets of dating. When is it too soon to have another significant other? When is it too soon to be interested in another? Rebound things are never fair to anyone. So, how long is long enough so that it's not considered a rebound anymore?
And if you answer with it depends, please explain why it depends and what it depends on.
I bet I will get all of two people to answer for these questions. You better be one of them. Yes, you.
So I randomly decided to go watch Babel last night. It was a really great movie. Yeah, going out on Mondays. That's two weeks in a row now where I stayed out late on a Monday.
Recently I've been listening to the same songs on repeat. It's been Nelly Furtado Say It Right for the last few days. I find that song ridiculously catchy. I was also sent some Korean rock song that is pretty good. I listened to that for a while on repeat. But I think I'm off the repeat thing now. At least for the time being. It's always nice when you get new music to listen to. Works out even better if you actually like it.
5 comments:
you now that nelly furtado is like really good friends with steve nash? They grew up in the same neighborhood in canada...just thought you should know....
and as for the questions you posed, the simple answer: 2 weeks for every 6 months you were in the relationship. And it's a date if you said it was date, otherwise it's just hanging out...it needs to be explicity mentioned "it's a date"....
of course, there's more to it, but i thought my comment should be short. And no, i don't believe everything that i say.....lol
i like ming's answer. i agree that it's not a date unless its explicitly said that its a date; i don't know about the 2 weeks for every 6 months, but that seems like a good indicator. it really depends on you though, i think that if in your heart you are ready to move on, and the person you meet, you are not always comparing to the past person and you can separate them, then you're probably ready (assuming you're not just stuffing down the feelings for a past person). i think that when its time, you will know.
you know i read this thing on yahoo..."what your guy is actually saying"...yeah i know, kinda gay, but anyways, it said that if a guy refers to their ex is a positive manner, as opposed to "that whore i hope she dies a penniless slag"...than it usually means he's gotten over her and realized that as good as his ex was, she's not right for him. My point? i guess that's the "threshold" perhaps you're looking for.
Hmmm...you could argue either side. Sometimes when you hang out with someone it can turn into something more really quickly and unexpectedly. Does it matter if it's a date or not? What really matters is if the two people like each other or not.
The other question, I don't think there is a right or wrong answer.
well, some people say that it takes the amount of time you dated to get over someone. so, if you dated for a year, a year to get over.. but i think it depends also if you are the dumper or the dumpee. the dumper usually is much quicker to get over. but the dumpee much longer... (speaking from experience here) also, the other question, date/hanging out thing. i think it's a date if one or both of the parties have a "more-than-friend" interest in the other person. of course if i was actually in the position, i would deny that it's a date and call it hanging out.... but like jin said, i think what matters more is what the person's intentions are... are they spending time together to get to know each other better so that, in the long run, they could be dating?
-mary
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